#14 of 1001 Awesome Things: Girl Best Friends

September 2, 2017
Disclaimer: At this point, I am surrendering to the fact that I cannot do this writing challenge every day, but I will finish this 1001 Awesome Things project (trust me!). I am already lagging 6 posts since the “Free Starbucks Drink” post so it would be difficult for me to catch up)

Girl Best Friends
 
She was wearing a red cap, a black shirt, a brown skirt and a pair of brown shoes. Then I realized I was wearing the same colors. It’s either we looked like we were a couple or we were twins. Rica and I craved for Thai food and we decided to meet and eat at a local Thai restaurant today.  
 
Rica is my officemate. I was intimidated by her during her first day at work. She was quiet but strong. But when I had the chance to know her more, she was a nice girl. We even pretended to be in a relationship to make fun of our older office mates or to protect her from a creepy stalker
 
I have had girl best friends since God knows when. I remember my first girl best friend back in 2nd Grade and her name was Anne. We started out as enemies. I borrowed her notebook to write an important note (or to doodle a stick figure of a boy). I tore out the page and I got terrified that all the pages were removed from the bind. I wasn’t able to reason out because she saw what happened. Her favorite pink Barbie doll notebook was ruined. She was angry. After a couple of days and constant peace offerings, we became best friends. Today, she’s my personal doctor. I usually call her for everything that is happening in my body. Her favorite color now is purple and no longer pink. 
 
Anne and I went to the same highschool, but because she was a smartass, she was sorted to a higher section. Though we were still friends and she was irreplaceable, I had this bond with a weird girl in high school. Her name was Jess. We developed this friendship after a scary incident in school where she suddenly screamed and passed out during a Social Studies class about exorcism and the paranormal. Some of her friends claimed that during our freshmen year, they tried to play the spirit of the coin. Curious, I asked Jess what happened. “I don’t know what happened. I just passed out.” We became friends after that incident. The scary event did not happen again though I had to blame her for the sleepless nights I had because of it. 
 
Jessica and I did some pretty cool things together. While people were either reading science books or playing basketball, we were collecting dead insects and secretly investigating some school issues as if we were Nancy Drew and Joe/Frank Hardy. I remember the voice tape she took when I failed to attend our school’s stargazing activity. She asked our other friends to talk to the recorder as if I was there. After the event, she visited our house and gave the tape to me.  
 
But of course, college happened. Jessica and I went to different schools. We grew apart. We changed. But I have to admit that I was glad I had a friend like Jess who challenged me to be myself and to be weird. 
 
I have had girl best friends after that. Danielle, who I started to call Big Sister became my comfort zone during my first year in college. She was three years older than me so I usually come to her for wisdom and advice. When Danielle chose the night class over our usual morning class, Vanity became my constant companion. She was bubbly, pretty, wild and a party girl. She usually tells me to have fun while I am young. We were opposites but we had fun together. When I shifted a course and tried to audition for our university’s theatre organization,  I met Jogs. She was there to encourage me to show my talents. She was also adventurous so we traveled together, even after college. 
 
Hope you will not find this a sexist post, but every guy should at least have a girl best friend in his lifetime.  
Do you have a girl best friend? Share your stories below!
Featured Photo: Doctor Who and Rose Tyler of the longest running British TV Series Doctor Who. This is the best best friendship goals ever.
Ps.
You will understand the face of confusion when you have a girl best friend. They’re the wisest and the most strategic beings ever.
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#4 of 1001 Awesome Things: Talking about Social Issues during Family Dinners

August 22, 2017

Family dinners are becoming rare as we age, or at least in my case. I moved out last year to be independent. But if my schedule permits, I visit for dinners and sometimes stay overnight. 

 

Our family dinner looks like this:

 

Mama will cook while Mama Cing, my grandma prepares the plates and the utensils. After preparing, mama will call us. Papa will wake up Tatang, my grandpa who usually sleeps around 6 pm. He must wake up and eat because of his medications. While on the table, Tatang will stare at me as if I am a stranger, no thanks to his memory loss. Mama Cing will ask Tatang if he can still recognize me. For Tatang, I am always a different person. Sometimes I am a family friend or sometimes I am his 18-year old great grandson. Grandma will shout at Grandpa if he refuses to eat. Everybody shouts because of grandpa’s aging ear. Sometimes I hate the routine. Most of the time I love it–the peaceful chaos of family dinners. 

 

Tonight’s dinner was different. We were all affected by the local news about the injustices in the country including the murder of the 11th grader by the local police. The country’s situation was getting worse. Mama, who was usually quiet when Papa and I talk about these issues finally gave her opinion. “People can now easily take away life as if they were pigs in a slaughterhouse”, she said. Grandma would tell us that he used to like the President, but because of the recent events, she started to loathe the guy. Meanwhile, my disoriented grandpa thinks the President was a dwarf. 

 

We ranted about the President’s leadership. We ranted why he was still supported by the people. We ranted why majority of the poor are the victims of drug related killings.

 

Most of our extended family members are also supporters. But I am glad that I am in the same boat with my parents and grandparents. We all believe that life is sacred, and that is something I am thankful for today. 

Minimalism and Drama Queens

Minimalism in my own definition is putting stuff away which do not add value to us. I have written a post about it and I have cited examples of what I did with my stuff, my wardrobe, and my digital space. Some were radical. Some were things I did to simplify.

As my journey to minimalism continues, I realized that the minimalist lifestyle is more than giving away stuff, scanning papers to have more space and deleting useless phone applications. Minimalism also includes managing our emotions, thoughts, and energy towards the people around us. Like letting go of useless stuff, minimalism also allows us to let go of relationships which do not add value and quality to our lives. If we need to be intentional with our material consumption and our inner lives, we should all as well be intentional with our relationships. Continue reading “Minimalism and Drama Queens”